During a recent session, a client was really stirred up over an interaction they had. I don’t remember which party apologized, but I do remember vividly the argument they had. A three-letter word was the catalyst. One of them said they were sorry and then…
Recently, I had a session with a client who described a phone conversation she had with a relative. It sounded like she took control of the conversation rather quickly when the relative described a life-altering event so I asked for clarification. My client quickly admitted…
I often use the analogy of locks and keys during sessions as metaphors for life. Without locks, there would be no keys. The funny thing about locks is the person with the key has all the control. They can let you in or keep you…
As the world excitedly anticipates the fast-approaching holidays, not everybody has others to spend the holidays with. Some are going through difficult breakups and this could be the first holiday season without their usual partner. Many will use the new year as an opportunity to…
I have a flip chart in my office I often introduce when a client is struggling in a relationship. Several things stand out as we go through the pages. I want to talk about spite here because it’s crept into many couple counseling sessions lately.…
In western civilization, by the age of 50, 90% of adults have been married at least once. Living with someone is hard. According to the CDC, the divorce rate is about 43%. The good news is that rate has dropped over the last 20 years.…
